Knowing What You Deserve In A Relationship

Hi yall, I’m busy chipping away at back to school stuff and wedding goodies, but this week I wanted to write up a little piece about knowing your self worth in a relationship.

As I scroll though FaceBook, Instagram, and just simply listen to the world around me, I see both men and women putting every want and need and problem online. Most of you know, I am not a fan of airing your laundry for the world to see (call me old fashioned) but I also see men and women giving up on their dreams for a significant other!

Listen to me right now, it is okay to compromise in a relationship but NEVER lose sight of who you are and what you want from life and a relationship. Sacrifice and compromise are two main things that have kept Michael and I strong, but we would never let each other give up on realistic hopes and our own wants from life and our relationship.

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However, you know how I feel about unrealistic expectations from a relationship, so of course this article is for those of you who don’t expect the flowers every waking moment or those weird videos of couples wearing matching outfits, or I don’t even know what else, with that corny music in the background. But what I am saying is, if you’re in a relationship and both of you want that end goal of marriage, don’t settle until you’re there! If you want to achieve certain goals for yourself but your SO doesn’t want you to go back to school or further your career, DONT LET THEM STOP YOU. Know what you want and deserve in a relationship and don’t settle until you find everything that you want. If you want kids, have an adult conversation and don’t stop until you compromise. If you want a date night once a week, go out and have a good date night once a week. If your SO is doing something you don’t like, tell them! Don’t be passive and let the world out there pass you by.

You deserve the best for yourself in life and a relationship, so don’t stop until you get everything you want. And before getting into a serious relationship, know exactly what you want and don’t settle for anything short of happiness! Find someone who gives you exactly what you want and wants the same things that you do out of life. Everyone deserves to know what they’re worth and to get that happy life they want.

See Y’all Next Tuesday!

xoxo

Miranda

Fiancé Appreciation Post

First off, I would like to take a minute to thank all of my faithful readers and I apologize for not posting every week, summer is a busy time for me, so as soon as school is back in session get ready for weekly inspiration and post!

This week after an amazing vacation, I just wanted to show a little extra love to my man, basically for putting up with me every day of his life.

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  1. Thank you for being my rock and keeping me grounded and humble- when I get a little bit crazy you’re always my voice of reason, and bring me back down to earth.
  2. Thank you for providing for me and building with me- even though we support each other  financiallay, thank you for providing me with safety and extra love and care. I am so blessed to be able to say we own a house of our own and I can’t wait to continue to build an amazing life together.
  3. Thank you for putting up with me, every side of me, good and bad- I know I can be a brat sometimes, waking me up is no joke, but you do put up with me and all of my moodiness like a champ, and still loving me at the end of the day no matter what.
  4. Thank you for dealing with me on my 21st birthday- I know it wasn’t easy, and I probably acted like a brat when we got home, but thank you for getting me home and in bed safe and sound.
  5. Thank you for inspiring me to try new hobbies- I promise I’ll get more into airsoft if you promise to be super patient with me lol
  6. Thank you for dealing with wedding planning- I know it’s not the most exciting thing in the world but you know it’s going to be worth it as soon as it’s time to get married.
  7. Most importantly, thank you for loving me day in and day out and being loyal and mine- thank you for making every day fun and amazing just like the day before, and even if we have a bad day, thanks for helping get through it, thanks for always having my back and being my best friend.

Thanks for reading y’all! XoXo

Miranda

My Bridesmaids: Revealed!

Today’s post has been in the works for quite some time. Choosing bridesmaids is actually really hard because you have to pick girls who will be there for you every step of the way, and you have to consider a few things: how long have I known them? How available will they be for me? How dependable are they? Will the financial responsibility of being a bridesmaid ruin your friendship? 

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Now, of course, I promise not to be a bridezilla so my maids won’t have to worry about dissolving our friendship because of that, but I do need maids who are willing to stay up all night with me hot glueing center pieces and addressing invites and all the good stuff that comes with a wedding.

I also know that feelings might get hurt because I didn’t choose you to be a bridesmaid, but just know it was a hard decision for me to make as well.

So, here goes nothing! Originally I had decided to have 4 bridesmaids, but now I’ll have 5 (story to follow), but these girls have been with me for a long time, and they have seen the worst of me and the best of me, and I know I can depend on them every step of the way.

My Maid Of Honor, was a shoe-in, because well, she’s my sister! I don’t know how anyone can have a wedding and not include the automatic best friend that God gave you. It should be illegal to not include your sister as a bridesmaid. But anyway picking my MOH was easy because Nicole is so organized and will kick my ass into shape if she sees me getting behind. She’s computer savvy and just all around great, so I wouldn’t pick anyone else but her. And even if she lives in Florida, she’ll get shit done!

My sister got the same bridesmaid pack as the other girls, but I wanted to give her something extra special because well Maid of Honor is important! So, I had a Premier Jewelry Party, which I advise all imagebrides to do because you get SO MUCH free jewelry! (Laurie was the rep, and she was AMAZING), but anyways, so I picked out a piece that I really liked for myself (lol) and then I thought, wow, Nicole would like this too, so, I got one for her too. It was the Matthew 17:20 necklace, which not only is it a beautiful piece, but the verse Matthew 17:20 fits so well, “He replied, ‘Because you have so little faith. Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.”  Which spoke to me because my sister is fricken amazing, and sometimes as girls we need to know that we are invincible, which she is! And as my MOH nothing will be impossible!

My other 3 bridesmaids, we’re basically shoe-ins as well because like I said, they have been there for me, for SO LONG!

Brandi has been my best friend and partner in crime since birth, and of course I wouldn’t have picked anyone else, because I wouldn’t be who I am today without getting into crazy adventures with her. And I know she will have no problem voicing her opinion and keeping me straight. Even if we don’t get to see each other as much as we like, every time we come back together it’s like we never left each other’s side, getting into some kind of trouble, and being crazy and ruthless, and of course willing to kill someone (not really) for each other  and that is why I knew Brandi had to be one of my bridesmaids, no questions asked!

imageTaylor has also been my best friend for over 10 years now, and I knew from the moment I met her in the 6th grade, we would be friends for life. We have spent countless hours being crazy little girls and have dealt with our fair share of heartbreaks, and still remained by each other’s sides, and I can honestly say we have both become loyal and mature women who love their husbands-to-be unconditionally. Unfortunately Taylor lives in California now, and has been there for almost 4 years, but the best part about our friendship is that we can be 3,000 miles apart, and hardly get to see each other, but every time we text, it’s like there’s no distance between us! She is one of my most faithful friends, so of course she has to be my bridesmaid!

Tara is also one of those friends you have to keep for life, although she hasn’t been my best friend for as long as Taylor or Brandi, she has been there for me for about 7 years or so. We have always been in the same home room, and then luckily our boyfriends became close and in a band together, so we got to spend a lot of time together. Tara has watched me be psycho over girls who I’ve had immature problems with when Michael and I first started dating, (luckily I realized how dumb that was) but she still remained my friend! We have sat through our fair share of gigs and practices, and carried all the band equipment like true groupies! And even though college and distance has also separated us, we still remained close, and she has helped me through Pinterest, sending me tons of great ideas, so I know she would make the perfect bridesmaid!

Each of my maids received a denim and lace clutch, with a pair of Premier Desgins pearl earrings that imagethey will wear on my wedding day, along with an ivory and pearl headband that they get to put in their hair. I also included a gray nail polish to show them the shade of gray their dresses will be, along with a Chapstick to keep their lips flawless. If you didn’t know, our wedding colors are going to be Denim blue, ivory lace, sunflower yellow, charcoal gray, and hints of pearls to keep it classy! It’s going to be very country and rustic and romantic and I cannot wait!

Now, my 5th bridesmaid is Nikki, who has been my best friend for about 5 years now, and I thought that I wanted to include Nikki but I wasn’t sure how she would feel about being a bridesmaid because I have asked her two little girls, Savanna and Aubree to be my flower girls, imageand I didn’t want to overwhelm her with too much, even though she is a super mom! So I gave Nikki the original title of Honorary Bridesmaid because I really really really wanted her to be a bridemaid, but I wasn’t sure if she would be up for it, so I wanted her to do a reading and be as involved as she could.  The best news is, SHE WANTS TO BE A BRIDESMAID! So, I have to get her the same stuff I got the other girls because I get to have her in my wedding! Yay!

I am so excited to have all of my close friends be in our wedding! There are some other friends who I would have liked to have in our wedding, but it’s hard to have 15 bridesmaids especially when your fiancé is keeping his side small! So I hope no ones feelings get hurt because they aren’t a bridemaid, but, you’re all still invited to the wedding, responsibility free, so get ready to come, drink your face off, and enjoy yourselves at our wedding! It’s going to be a great time!

xoxo,

Miranda

You Don’t Know Us

This week, I feel like giving a reality check to those who think they might know Michael and I just because they read about us online.

You might read about us, you might follow my posts on FaceBook, or Instagram, or you might have known us at one point in your life. But here’s the real truth; you don’t really KNOW us. Only our close friends and family really know what goes on in our life.

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I will never air our dirty laundry online. You will never know when we are fighting or going through a hard time, and to be honest, it’s no one’s business. And that’s just one way we keep our relationship strong. But I will tell you that it isn’t always peaches and cream and happy days, we have our fights, but we always over come them.

Something you might not know is that together, we have dealt with some hard times recently, and of course I wouldn’t make it known, I feel like I should because some of you seem to think “we have it easy.” The truth is, we don’t. We struggle a lot but together we support each other. We don’t take hand outs from our parents, we work hard, we work about 40+ hours a week individually and we save most of our earnings. We support ourselves. Everything we have, we bought and pay for. And here’s something amazing, Michael bought us a HOUSE. What 22 year old do you know owns a house of their own? Not rented, OWNED, but of course we don’t boast about it, so most of you would never know!

We also have been faced with some of the hardest times recently, but yet again, we keep to ourselves. A family member has been very sick, and day in and day out we spend countless hours at the hospital dealing with well, life. But those of you who “know” us, don’t know that. Funny isn’t it?

And to top it all off, I lost my best friend, my grandmother, back in March and I bet you didn’t know that some nights I still cry because it was sudden and unfair. But I don’t tell anyone that, besides Michael because we keep to ourselves. I could be driving and burst into tears because I can’t cope with her death. But how many of you know that?

What I’m trying to say is, don’t act like you know us just because you see what I post online. I will never put anything out there again like this, because I never like to seem vulnerable. And that’s just what makes us strong.

Thanks for reading this week!

xoxo love y’all faithful peeps!

Miranda

The One: Have You Found Them?

Since it is summer, and like I’ve said before, I’m working a lot more, so my posts for now are going to be bi-weekly! I’m sorry! I’m a busy bee!

This week, I wanted to talk about the ways you know you’ve found “the one.” Of course there are people who think every partner they have is “the one” and even though I’ve only been with Michael, there are things about him and our relationship that I know make this relationship permanent!

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  1. Things shouldn’t feel forced— you would know you met your soul mate just by the fact that you don’t have to force yourself to be happy. You shouldn’t have to question whether or not this is for you and if you’re happy. The relationship should just come natural, and it should never feel one sided.
  2. You should be building together— and by this I mean, tasks and bills should be taken care of together. There should never be a point where you feel that he does everything or she does everything, or everything you have is because of your SO. When you’re with the one, everything in the relationship is because both of you got yourselves to this point.
  3. You can always be yourself— you should be loved for who you are, good, bad and ugly. You should be able to be as loud as you are or as weird as you want, and still feel comfortable.
  4. Fights range from stupid little things, to important big things— when Mike and I have a fight, if it’s small it’s over something dumb, or I’m just being annoying or paranoid, but if it’s big, it’s usually over something important or serious, but at the end of the day we still love each other. And most importantly, NEVER fight about money!
  5. They’re the first person you call— when you have good news or bad news, you don’t think of telling anyone else first, it’s them and always them.
  6. You can’t remember what life was like without them— even if it hasn’t been 7 years like Mike and I, you can’t think of a time when you weren’t together. Michael said the other day, has it really been seven years? And I’m like YES, but it sure doesn’t feel like it!
  7. You tend to still miss them-– even if you aren’t apart for days or months at a time, you still find yourself wanting to be right there with them!
  8. You know how to get under each other’s skin— with so much love comes the ability to annoy each other, and if you can’t enjoy that, you’re not soul mates!
  9. You have a bond like no other— best friends can’t even come close to what you have. And even if sometimes you can’t see eye to eye, you get on the same page when it matters most.
  10. They know everything about you, but still learn new things every day— they’re seriously part of every story you tell others, you can tell when the other is hurt or needs to talk, but some how you keep learning more and more, eventually you’ll be able to write a book about them, but you’ll have to update the edition every month or so!
  11. You feel protected and secure— you might not have a lot, but you sure have arms to hold you when you’re down, and a person who makes you feel like the world, so together you have it all.
  12. You’re basically became the same person— not only do you get “we” cards and gifts on Christmas, but you often find yourselves sounding like the other or doing things they would do, and you’re like wow, I’m starting to become (insert SO here).
  13. Your family and friends know that most of the time, you’re a package deal— you don’t go anywhere without each other, but at the same time, you can do things without the other, it’s weird, but I think it’s called independence mixed with codependence. It’s a little bit of both.
  14. You have your own language— looks turn into intense laughter, and you don’t even have to say anything! Or I know if I say anything smart, Michael will mumble under his breath something slick and I don’t even have to know what he said before he starts laughing and I’m smiling ear to ear. We can be critical of each other and joke around, and still love each other.
  15. You don’t feel the need to keep looking for someone better— because you already know you have the best, and you don’t want anyone else to come into your life. You can feel it in your soul that you’ve found the right one.

Let me know how you found your soul mate, or if you’re still looking, you know what to look for now!

XOXO

Miranda

Quick Pieces of Relationship Advice

Currently, I’m at the beach enjoying my day off. But I didn’t want to disappoint my readers by not posting again! I figured I would give a few pieces of advice I’ve learned  and what others have offered to me!

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  1. Be completely honest. The most important thing in your relationship is honesty. Without honestly, there isn’t trust, and then everything else seems to fall apart.
  2. Admit when you’re wrong, and don’t boast when you’re right. No one likes a smart ass and it isn’t fun when fights get ugly. Put your pride aside when it comes to the one you love.
  3. Take it slow! There’s no reason to rush things. Wait a year before moving in together or getting engaged because people change! I spent 5 years with Mike before getting engaged and moving in together. And 7 years later we are still learning about each other!
  4. Life isn’t a movie. Don’t expect your life to be a fairytale. I know it’s hard if you’re like me and love all those rom-com movies, but there’s expectations and then there’s reality, be realistic.
  5. Everyone has their moments. Everyone can be an asshole at times, but it’s about finding the one you’re willing to deal with for the rest of your life.
  6. Dont marry someone you wouldn’t want your kids to be like. I know in today’s age kids often come before marriage which is fine! Some aren’t planned and you can’t help it, but even if the one you marry isn’t the one you had kids with, pick someone you know is going to be a good role model and who’s going to be there for your kids.
  7. The passion should always be there. You don’t have to be on top of each other every day. Or baby talk, but you should always be passionate with your SO. It keeps romance alive and it always makes you feel like you’re in the right relationship.
  8. Never go to bed angry! You won’t get a good nights sleep and the grudge will still be there when you wake up. Always solve and apologize and kiss and make up before going to bed. Even if you’re on the couch and she’s in the bed.
  9. Thank them for everything they do for you. Always be grateful for what you have and never be envious of what someone else has. Your life is full of love and you have someone so be thankful!
  10. In the words of my favorite movie, Juno; “The best thing you can do is find a person who loves you for exactly who you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you. The right person is still going to think the sun shines out of your ass. That’s the kind of person worth sticking with.”

What is some of the best relationship advice you have ever gotten? Let me know in the comments!

Xoxo see y’all next Tuesday

Miranda

Guest Blogger: Why Having an Engaged Sister is the Best

I’ve been working a lot and I haven’t had a lot of time to keep up with my blog! I’m so sorry! This week I had my sister guest write so enjoy!

Having a sibling is one of the coolest things in this entire world. If you have multiple siblings, it’s probably even cooler. You’ll always have someone to vent to. You’ll always have someone to help you persuade your parents.  And you’ll always have someone to bug. (We’re all guilty of that, don’t deny it.)

I consider myself pretty lucky because in my nineteen years of existence, I have never experienced a time without a sibling. Not just any sibling – MY sister. I’ve always had her to lean on, buy me food, bug to death, whatever I said up there. Until now, which is the only exception, because we are currently separated by 1,000 miles of distance. However, that doesn’t stop us from being close or anything of those sorts.

If you didn’t get the memo by now, this isn’t Miranda writing something about relationships. Hi! It’s her younger and much funnier sister, Nicole, gushing about my sister’s engagement and why I love it.

If having a sister in this crazy life wasn’t the best thing that’s happened to me, having an engaged sister definitely is. I could probably go on for days about why I love going through this experience with her, but I will narrow it down to just three things.

1. The excitement of engagement (duh.)

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There’s just something about pretty rings, “we’re engaged” and new chapters ahead. It’s a mix of exciting, nerve-wrecking, and joy. I’m sure there’s a word for it, but I’m leaving it at “unexplainable.”

I still remember when Miranda got engaged two summers ago. I actually found via text which I will still never forgive or forget… but I was so excited for her. That excitement still hasn’t worn off and it probably won’t wear off until the wedding next year.

2. Wedding planning! (also, duh.)

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I can’t think of very many girls that haven’t planned their wedding since they were like seven. Little girls are always talking about where they’ll get married, who they’ll marry, what the dress will look like, and so on. My sister is certainly one of those people, even though her style has changed over the years from bling-bling to country chic.

Even when it’s not your wedding (like me, this isn’t mine) it’s still really exciting to be a part of this process. It’s absolutely breathtaking to see your sister try on a dress for the first time. It becomes realistic when she’s set a date. And sometimes its patience-testing when she consults you about every single detail (Sorry, Miranda. I do enjoy it.)

No matter what, I have faith in everything that she is doing and I can’t wait until the actual wedding.

3. The addition of a brother-in-law!

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Even though Michael has been in our lives for a very long long long long long *ad infinitum* time and it will probably feel no different, I am still very excited for both my sister to gain a husband, my parents to gain a son-in-law, and myself to gain a brother-in-law. If family is as important to you as it is to me, an expansion is a pretty big deal.

Thanks for taking your time to hear me out.

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SURPRISE POST: Why the “woman proposing” movement bothers me slightly.

Disclaimer: this post is not judgement, just my opinion from a strong woman’s perspective, and an advocate for all types of mushy romantic events and situations in life. Love is love and in the end it doesn’t matter who does what as long as you’re in love!

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The picture or article circulating the Internet of a woman proposing to her man has definitely raised some eyebrows and makes me question how I truly feel about something like this. To be completely honest, I’m not against it, and I’m not for it. I feel indifferent about it. I know I’m all about strong and independent women which is why I’m all for getting down on one knee if you choose to, but I’m against it for a few different reasons.

This is honestly giving men what they want. Let’s be real here. Some men fear commitment (not saying all men do because obviously I’ve been blessed with one who is devoted to me, and hats off to the men sticking by their special someone) but even if you’re in a relationship for years on end, you might have a man who just doesn’t want marriage. And then there’s this gray area where you might know that, or you might not, and you’re one bad ass independent woman who knows that she wants to be with this man for the rest of forever, get down on one knee, right where he wants you to be, and tells you “no.” And then guess what, that power struggle so many people talk about is awarded to the man, and at least if he asks you, you have the power to say yes or say no.

Honestly, I’m not being a negative Nancy or a feminist here, but I’m just being honest because sometimes to be a strong woman you really have to “think like a man” or just be a boss lady because we all know women are just as strong, if not, stronger than men. So if you want to take the initiative and propose, think about everything. Of course, if you know he will say yes and he’s just too scared to ask, then heck yeah! Do your thing girl!

Another thing is, the feeling of anticipation that comes around the time you think he will propose. I want every girl to have that feeling, and I’m sure you would still get that feeling if you get down and ask him, but that feeling might also be anxiety because this could go great, or it could go sour. The day Michael asked me to go to the jewelry store, I had that moment you’re supposed to get when they officially ask, I was scared, and happy at the same time, I cried, and he didn’t even ask me at the store! And for the next week I had those butterflies that you get in the beginning when he leans in and kisses you for the first time. And then when he pulled that ring out at the top of the Ferris wheel, I got that feeling again! It’s a feeling everyone dreams about, and I don’t want anyone to miss out on that feeling. Like I said, I’m not sure if you would get the same feeling if you proposed to him, and if you do, great, but if you don’t, it’s something I wouldn’t want you to miss out on, or like that feeling he’s supposed to get when you walk down the isle for the first time on your wedding day. You know what I’m saying?

Anyway, so I’m for the girl proposing because if you want something bad enough, you should go for it! Love is love and in the end it doesn’t matter who does what as long as you’re in love! I’m all for the non traditional, and I think it’s pretty bad ass, because hello, I asked Michael out when we first started dating, even though he would tell you otherwise!

Trust me, we are one odd and non traditional couple, but together we are one power couple that gets shit done.. And like I’ve said it a million times, base your “relationship goals” off real relationships. If that relationship is what you would like, then go for it! Love is love and in the end it doesn’t matter who does what as long as you’re in love!

Leave me feedback or how you feel, all opinions are welcome! Hateful comments to me will be deleted and reported because this is MY opinion, and this is also MY blog. Like I said this is not a judgement post, and as I’ve said I’m both for and against the role swap. Every relationship is beautiful and unique and I appreciate all relationships.

Xo,

Miranda

Some Things Should Stay Off Social Media!

Sorry this post is slightly late, I’ve been quite busy with work, our upcoming trip to California and more wedding plans!

This week I want to write about something I see so often on social media, and it’s not only a huge pet peeve of mine, but it is also the demise of so many relationships today. Do not air your dirty laundry online, and do not air your sexual endeavors or even overly romantic statues. There are certain things in a relationship that should stay private in a world so public.

Monitoring what you chose to put on social media will save your relationship. We live in an age where over sharing is a serious epidemic. We post what we ate for breakfast, lunch and dinner, we post our ailments and possible diseases, we post when we want attention or need help, and we post the highs and lows of our relationships, which we shouldn’t. imageWe don’t care if you and your SO are going through the ringer, we don’t want to see you fight back and forth in the comments, or have anyone in your extended family jump in. First of all, it’s immature to put any of your business out there, second of all, why would you want anyone to see that you could be on the verge of breaking up? Why would you even let people who probably want your relationship to fail to remotely think they were right? Fighting online is one of the most unattractive things I see in relationships. Fight in private, and hey if things don’t work, I’m sure you’ll let us all know by your change in relationship status from “in a relationship” to “single.”

Another thing to keep off of social media is honestly anything that has to do with your sex life whether you’re in or out of a relationship. Don’t post half naked pictures showing off the “goods” and for the love of God, don’t post pictures of you in bed naked with your SO. It’s tasteless and your friends Aunt Sally probably won’t appreciate it. Also if you’re on a break, you can totally keep those “drunken nights” posts off Facebook too. We don’t care about the bar rat you picked up and took around the block. Even if you’re single as a dollar bill I don’t care to see anything about your flavor of the week and chances are, your future SO won’t find it attractive either.

And lastly, I’ve said this before and I’ll say it until I’m blue in the face on my death bed, the overly romantic, over baby talked statuses, have got to go. We don’t care if your “babycake loveface” opened the car door for you or even wiped your ass. Yes it’s cute if your SO gets you flowers or brings you breakfast in bed, but if it’s an every day thing, we don’t need to know every day. And I also don’t need to see you go back and forth with who loves who more, because chances are, next week, he won’t love you more.

These are always red flags I see come across social media and then the next week you’re single and complaining again. I’m all for appreciating what you have on social media, but we don’t need to know your fights, your bedroom lives and the baby talk. I’m not calling anyone out in particular, just calling things as I see them. In my experience, and my opinion, keeping these off of social media is for the best and will save your relationship. Trust me, Michael and I have made it through the immature high school years without blowing everyone’s life up on social media and I bet you wouldn’t have ever known how many times we’ve broken up or even our struggles because we’ve never posted about it. Do your relationship a solid, and keep certain things private! It’ll be worth it, even 7 years later!

What are some things you find annoying on social media? Leave me feedback in the comments!

See y’all next Tuesday!
Xo,

Miranda

How to be a Supportive Partner

Life is unexpected. You can lose a family member, someone can have cancer, you can buy your first home or get a promotion at work all in the same day. Life can be complicated to face all on your own. imageWhile it’s great to have supportive friends and family, it’s especially important to have a supportive partner. Michael and I have faced a great deal together, both good and bad, and through it all we stick by each other. Sometimes it’s difficult when the situations get tough but when we need each other for words of encouragement it makes it all worth while. So I figured I would list a few things on how to be a supportive partner for both the good things and the bad, hopefully this helps next time you and your partner are in a sticky situation or just need each other during the highs.

1. Active listening. This is the first thing you need to do to know when your significant other needs you the most. I’m sure you have conversations all day and every day, but your SO may not tell you when they need or want your help. But being a ear to listen is one of the best things you can do.

2. Staying positive. No matter what the situation may be, being positive is one of the best things you can do. If the situation is hard, your positive outlook and advice will lift your partner up and help them stay positive too.

3. Offering encouraging words. Along with being positive, letting your SO know how great they’re doing in school or work or in general, it will let them know that you’re noticing everything they’re accomplishing and you’re there for them.

4. Let them know you’re a team together. Tell your SO that they aren’t alone and you’re there to help them with whatever they may need. This will let them know you’re there for them, and by their side through thick and thin.

5. Thank your SO for everything and everything. Or for just being themselves. Let them feel appreciated either when they’re supporting you or when you’re supporting them so they know they’re doing a good job of holding it together.

6. Don’t baby your SO. Being supportive is different than babying them. Being there for them is one thing, but don’t wipe their ass for them. Let them be independent still, and remind them they’re strong and you’re like the sidekick.

7. Laugh together. Laughter is the best medicine for every situation. Be the comic relief your SO may need. Stay up and have the sleepy laughter at 3 am and just talk and laugh at everything life has given you. Laughter lets you know “I’m here for you through everything and everything” and is often a sigh of relief at the end of a hard day.

A strong marriage rarely has two strong people at one time. It’s a husband and a wife who take turns being strong for each other in the moments where the other feels weak. –Ashley Willis

I hope this helps you be there for your partner when they need you the most! Let me know how you’re a supportive partner in the comments!

See y’all next Tuesday!
Xo,

Miranda