When I look at the life I have built so far at only 21, I often find myself smiling and thanking God. I wake up every morning in a home that has been in Michael’s family for decades. I get to see the history of the family I am marrying into every single day. I get to take care of this house and make it ours, and I can’t wait to see our children grow in this home, even if it’s not for their whole lives.
I am lucky enough to have a man who takes care of me, and I take care of him. I am able to go to school to create a better life for us, and he works hard to keep us afloat until it’s my turn. I come home and cook a meal for him, and we enjoy cuddling on the couch, having a drink and binge watching our new favorite show. At times, I find myself just staring at him and his handsome face, thinking how the hell did I get so lucky?
There are even moments when it feels like we’re 14 and 15 again, being silly, wrestling, or laughing our heads off in bed at 3 AM. Sometimes it feels like the magic hasn’t changed. And for that, I am even more thankful. I get to watch the love of my life take care of our two spoiled kitties and imagine how well he will be with our future children. I even listen to him sometimes and feel like I’m listening to my dad talk to my mom. It’s weird but true that you find a man who is like your father, especially when your father is the greatest, and most caring man on earth, you find that you deserve the same in a husband. And for that, I am even more lucky.
A lot of the time, I hear “you and Michael are my favorite couple” and I even hear “what do you do to keep it going for so long?” And sometimes “I can’t wait to have a relationship like yours.” Every time I hear these things, my heart grows more and more happy. I love that we can be an inspiration, I say it all the time. But, we work hard for this relationship, we have our moments, but never for a second think about not being together. We have become best friends, and it’s the greatest thing in the world to get to feel excited just to come home and see him. We tell each other all the gossip and he is always the first person I call when I have good or bad news. We see each other cry, we see each other happy, and he stays with me even after seeing my morning face or dealing with my moodiness. We don’t hide anything from each other, and we are always honest, even if it hurts.
The truth is, even if it seems like our relationship is picture perfect, I will never fool anyone and tell them that it’s peaches and cream all the time, because it’s not. Most relationships are just comfortable with each other so they let important problems slide. We don’t. We don’t fight about money, but if there’s an issue with money, we deal with it on the spot. We have our fights when we get on each other’s nerves but there isn’t a second where I think “this is it, it’s over” because it’s not. There isn’t an issue in the world that would make me up and leave him and the same goes for him. We have our moments, work it out and move on. We will never give up on each other and I think that’s the most important.
Good things come over time. I think a lot of couples need to realize that. It takes time to get on a level like ours, it takes dedication and a lot of energy. It takes a lot of understanding and patience. It takes a lot of tears and laughter. It takes hardships and special moments to grow a love like ours. It just takes a little time and some elbow grease, and a lot of love. This is what it’s like to have a love people dream about.