Life is unexpected. You can lose a family member, someone can have cancer, you can buy your first home or get a promotion at work all in the same day. Life can be complicated to face all on your own. While it’s great to have supportive friends and family, it’s especially important to have a supportive partner. Michael and I have faced a great deal together, both good and bad, and through it all we stick by each other. Sometimes it’s difficult when the situations get tough but when we need each other for words of encouragement it makes it all worth while. So I figured I would list a few things on how to be a supportive partner for both the good things and the bad, hopefully this helps next time you and your partner are in a sticky situation or just need each other during the highs.
1. Active listening. This is the first thing you need to do to know when your significant other needs you the most. I’m sure you have conversations all day and every day, but your SO may not tell you when they need or want your help. But being a ear to listen is one of the best things you can do.
2. Staying positive. No matter what the situation may be, being positive is one of the best things you can do. If the situation is hard, your positive outlook and advice will lift your partner up and help them stay positive too.
3. Offering encouraging words. Along with being positive, letting your SO know how great they’re doing in school or work or in general, it will let them know that you’re noticing everything they’re accomplishing and you’re there for them.
4. Let them know you’re a team together. Tell your SO that they aren’t alone and you’re there to help them with whatever they may need. This will let them know you’re there for them, and by their side through thick and thin.
5. Thank your SO for everything and everything. Or for just being themselves. Let them feel appreciated either when they’re supporting you or when you’re supporting them so they know they’re doing a good job of holding it together.
6. Don’t baby your SO. Being supportive is different than babying them. Being there for them is one thing, but don’t wipe their ass for them. Let them be independent still, and remind them they’re strong and you’re like the sidekick.
7. Laugh together. Laughter is the best medicine for every situation. Be the comic relief your SO may need. Stay up and have the sleepy laughter at 3 am and just talk and laugh at everything life has given you. Laughter lets you know “I’m here for you through everything and everything” and is often a sigh of relief at the end of a hard day.
A strong marriage rarely has two strong people at one time. It’s a husband and a wife who take turns being strong for each other in the moments where the other feels weak. –Ashley Willis
I hope this helps you be there for your partner when they need you the most! Let me know how you’re a supportive partner in the comments!
See y’all next Tuesday!