This week I am inspired to write about strong women, myself being one of them. Not only do I want young girls to take after my hard work ethic, and willpower, along with my strength and ability to empower other women, but I want other women to be strong in relationships. So, what is like to be a strong and independent woman in a long term relationship?
I will be completely honest, the power struggle between the two of us is often difficult because I always feel the need to be in control, and being super independent gets in the way. I want to be in charge of every single aspect of our lives, from daily life all the way to our future life. Michael, let’s me get away with it most of the time, but I know he doesn’t like it when I plan every second of every day. The best advice I can give is to slow down. I know it’s hard to do, but sometimes, let him plan things, or do nothing at all or go with the flow.
What I also want girls to know is, no matter how long you have been together, be true to yourself. Be independent. You should NEVER have to depend on a man, that makes you weak in my opinion. Have your own money, pay your own bills, live your own life while sharing it with him. Take turns paying for dinner, buy him things too, do not always depend on him doing everything. Be strong, stand your ground when it comes to things you want! Nothing makes me more upset when girls let guys control them. I see nothing wrong with keeping your man happy, but also keep yourself happy! And most importantly, if you are not happy and always living a one sided relationship, LEAVE. As women we should stick together, be there for your girlfriends, if you see one of your friends not being as strong as you know they are, be their support. Women are often tearing each other down, and news flash, men are there to pick up the pieces, which is nice but, this is a sign to them that we need them even when it comes to other women. We should work together, women to women, women to men, and men to men, but we should also be our own person, strong and independent. This is how we make healthy and mature relationships work and last, remember that.
“The woman who does not require validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet.” –Mohadesa Najumi
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